弱者生存...

今天分别向朋友和比较要好的同事阐述了我对一名同事的不满.. 我向他们描述了一些我和这同事的互动.. 很显然的,我是比较强势的那一方... 其实认识我的人都知道我是很直来直往的一个人...喜欢或不喜欢常写在脸上.. 即使不骂人脸也会很臭.. 不过我对这同事是采取直接开炮的方式.. 有不满就直接了当的提出.. 完全不留余地..而刚好这个人也常做出让我无法认同却又不能坐视不理的事情..

也因为我觉得他的行为很幼稚,所以就禁不住要用Senior的语气讲他... 被我教训的人当然委屈..而旁观者也觉得我太过强势... 自然同情起被训的人,觉得我在欺负新人.. 基本上听我发牢骚的同事和朋友都觉得我对这同事的行为感到不满是可以理解的.. 但是表达的方式就太直接.. 完全不留情面.. 让人下不了台...原本我觉得我干嘛要留台阶给他..今天的难堪是他一手造成的.. 做错事就要负责..怕丢脸面的话就应该三思而后行... 说得狠一点就是他活该... 可是现在想想... 我也觉得我真的有点过分.. 人家只不过是刚从大学毕业的新鲜人.. 我实在不应该对他太苛刻...毕竟人都有恻隐之心, 往往同情弱势的那一方...这样强势的对待他,只会让人觉得我在欺负新人.. 而且还会让人觉得我盛气凌人,对他们也构成威胁.. 进而对我产生防卫甚至是厌恶心态.. 这点是我应该要早点注意到的..

所以我应该改变一下策略.. 适当的表现出前辈该有的风范与度量..才能以德服人... 赢得众人的爱戴..必要的时候可能也要扮一下委屈.... 哦!! 好虚伪喔........

Home Sweet Home?? I doubt so...

It has been a bad weekend for me and my families.. My house in JB ws broken in yesterday when we were out for some shopping.. We suffered from some monetary lost.. But nobody has been hurt.. (*Phew) However, I must said this caused a very big blow for my family.. Although we have read many cases of houses being broken in or robbed from the newspaper, we never expect this could happen to us.. I guess many people think the same way too.. "Those people became the victim because they are not careful enough".. Well, if you are thinking this way.. maybe this is time to adjust you thinking..

The case happened during the day time between 12:30pm to 5:30pm.. To some of the friends who has been to my house often, you should know that my house was right facing the main road and the traffic along the road was quite heavy.. There are cars passing by right in front of my house quite often too... But the bad thing about my house is that we have no neighbours.. The few houses next to mine are empty.. And I must say the way they broke into my house was highly "professional".. Here are some pictures showing the mess after the disaster..

As can be seen from the picture, the thief(ves) broke in from the front window.. They would have no chance to break in from the main door because it was heavily locked.. Honestly we never expect the thief(ves) could enter from the window because of the limited space and the strong fence we have installed for the window... After they successlly entered the house, they used a towel to cover the window so that the outsider would not be able to see what was happening inside.. And from the narrow gap made at the window.. we could tell that the thief(ves) must be quite skinny to enter from there...

Now.. let us talk about the efficiency of the Malaysian police force.. When we were back at home at about 5:30pmand discover about the theft, we called the nearby police station immediately.. The police patrol car arrive about 20 minutes later.. I am not complaining about this since this is faster than I had expected..

There were two policemen, one of them was carrying a long gun and lighted up a cigrette while entering my front yard..Wel.. I cannot complain this too... Maybe he was under stressed for carrying the gun... However they refuse to go into the house to take a look and after knowing that nobody got hurt they wanted us to go to make a list of lost items and make a report to the police station later.. And they just drove away..

So my father and sister went on to Ulu Tiram Police Station to make a police report at about 6:30pm.. And after that, they were asked to go to Johor Jaya Police Station to meet the inspector... So they made a trip there and came back at home only at about 8:30pm..

At the mean time.. my mum and I stayed at home and do not dare to touch anything because we thought the policemen may need to come to take the picture for record purpose.. But we were wrong.. when my father and sister were back.. they said the policemen would not take any photo of the mess and we can clean up the place.. Just that we must not touch the glass panels that the thief(ves) had take out because there might be fingerprints left behind.. Well.. if this was important... shouldn't we be receiving the instruction at the very first moment when we make the report? But I have no complaints about this too since I think this is common sense... And the sergeant told my father and sister that he will go home and take dinner and shower first.. then he would come to my house to "collect the evidence"... And indeed.. he came at about 10:30pm..

Actually after all I have no much complaints with the efficiency of the Polis Diraja Malaysia... Just that the last statement made by the sergeant again showed that the criminals had been very common and almost trivial .. and there's no need to be too alert of it.. And seems that there's nothing much they can do also.. And the sergeant even said that "Wow.. the thieves are so daring.." in view of the location of my house being so near to the main road.. And now my families are feeling so insecured to stay there.. and I am very worried about it too.. Hopefully no more such things would happen to us again.. And for you guys who staying in JB... Please be pray more.. as just being careful is not sufficient anymore....